Screening E-mails

We received our first screening email from OA&FS the other day.  It happened so soon after we were officially in the pool that it was a little bit of a shock.  It was also exciting.  Based on the information and after much discussion and prayer, we decided against our info being given to the prospective birth-mother.  It just did not feel "right" to either of us.

I admit, it felt a little strange to say no when we have been waiting so long to be shown to birth-moms.  But, when it is does not feel like the right moment, when it does not seem to be a good fit right from the start, it is best to say no.  So, we did what felt right for us and passed on the opportunity to be shown to a prospective birth-mom.

It may seem counter-intuitive to some of you, you may be thinking, with our desire to become parents, that we would jump on every opportunity presented to us.  But, in order to gain the blessing God has in store, we must follow His guidance and have faith and patience. I honestly believe that this was not the right moment for us, I believe God led us to the right decision.

Now, we sit back and the real waiting beings, the wait to be shown to and chosen by the right birth-mom.  I feel so relieved to finally be at this point in the process.  Not that waiting is easy or that I always feel relaxed and peaceful, but I am full of hope and happiness that we have achieved this mile-stone in the adoption process.  I look forward to the moment when we welcome our child and his or her birth-family into our lives.

(Side note - I was thinking about having a "pool" party, a gathering to celebrate being the pool of waiting families.  I think it would fun! Need to discuss it with Josh and see if we can, but I would love to be able to get together with friends and family to celebrate this mile-stone in the adoption process.)